"Living Life as a Lucid Dream"
D'Urso, Beverly (Kedzierski Heart), Workshop presented at
the Association for the Study of Dreams (ASD) Conference 1997,
Asheville, NC., June, 18, 1997
(Available as an audio tape from ASD at
http://www.asdreams.org/subidxcontapes.htm
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Summary of Living Life as a Lucid Dream
This workshop explores the use of lucid dreaming techniques and
implications in our waking life. As in sleeping lucid dreams, we will
learn to 'awaken in our lives', to live with less fear, to experience
the joy of success, and to feel a sense of oneness with everyone and
everything.
Abstract
This workshop explores the use of lucid dreaming techniques and
implications in our waking life. When we are lucid in our sleeping
dreams, we are 'aware that we are dreaming'. This means that we
experience ourselves in a 3-dimensional, vivid world where we know that
we are safe, that anything is possible, and that everyone and
everything around us is just part the dreamer's mind. We are free to do
whatever we please, have fun, experiment, and go wherever our
imagination takes us.
In this workshop, we will examine the possibility that life as we
know it may itself be a dream. Life may seem 'real' and unlike a
'dream' merely because we are not lucid enough. If we look at life this
way, then we can use lucid dreaming techniques from our sleeping dreams
to become more lucid in our lives, solving problems and accomplishing
goals along the way.
Lucid dreamers realize that becoming lucid, with all the
associated benefits, can be learned with motivation and techniques. A
discussion of the techniques and implications of lucid dreaming can
lead to new approaches to life's issues and goals. In this workshop, we
will learn to use awareness techniques during the day to help us become
lucid in both our sleeping dreams and in our waking life.
One technique that my students have used for years to become
lucid, is to look for unusual or specific situations in their day and
ask whether or not they are dreaming. Another technique lucid dreamers
use is to review reoccurring dreams and nightmares and practice
imagining themselves having new reactions. This is how I had the first
lucid dream that I remember at the age of seven.
We will learn to look for unusual or recurring situations in our
life and choose to respond in new ways. This can benefit our lives
tremendously. Lucid dreamers have brainstormed for hours about
different ways to respond to monsters in their dreams. We will learn to
do the same, for example, about quarrels we have over and over again
with people we love. We must first look at the life situation the way
we look at a dream when we know we are dreaming. In other words, we
must first become lucid. There are also ways lucid dreamers can learn
to remain in dreams, wake up out of dreams, change dreams, become more
lucid, and learn to accomplish intricate goals within their dreams. We
will explore how we can do so in our lives as well.
Lucid dreamers often report that they feel safe when they know
they are dreaming. In this workshop, we will learn to respond with less
fear in our lives. In sleeping lucid dreams, we act as if we are more
than just our dream bodies. In life, our bodies often feel as if they
'are who we are'. The same is true in non-lucid dreams. When we are not
lucid, we believe that death is inevitable and that our dream body is
'all we are'; that is, until we wake up out of the dream and discover
that the dream was all in our mind. We think, after the fact, that we
could have responded differently, that it was only a dream. After
waking up, we don't think that our dream bodies 'died'. We see that we
have merely switched focus. Could this be true of life? Of course, even
in sleeping dreams we would not, for example, jump off a cliff if we
weren't positive that we were in a dream and that we could, for
example, merely fly away. Our goal, then, is to learn to respond
differently at times, and with less fear, in our lives. We do not need
to wait until 'after the fact' to realize that we could have responded
with more love in our lives. Instead, we can 'wake up within our life'!
Lucid dreamers have experienced the amazing feeling to have an
exciting goal and made it happen! We can experience the joy of success
more often in our waking state by learning to become lucid in life and
set upon accomplishing a task with a new outlook. At the very least, we
can probably gain an understanding of how we may be blocking our selves
and try again.
When we are lucid in life, we can enjoy our selves more by
feeling a sense of oneness with everyone and everything. Then next time
we find ourself in an undesirable situation in our life, we can take
action with the belief that other people are parts of ourself, or that
we are all in the mind of the dreamer of life! This can help us to stop
and listen to what others have to say, not because we have been told
to, but because we want to understand our whole, true self. For
example, once during an argument with my cousin, I suddenly stopped to
think, "If this is a dream, then my cousin is expressing a part of my
own mind." Miraculously, at that exact moment, she started to explain
how our points of view were related instead of opposed.
For many lucid dreamers, it was easier to become lucid once they
heard about the idea; that is, once they believed that it was possible
to 'know that they were dreaming while dreaming'. When they questioned
that they might be dreaming and looked for evidence, they were more
likely to see the evidence and became lucid. When they experienced
results, they became great believers. We can do the same with lucid
living.
This workshop may have a profound effect on our lives. Of course,
as in our sleeping dreams, it is very easy to go on automatic and lose
lucidity. However, the more we practice being lucid, whether at night
or during the day, the more likely we will be lucid at all times. By
living life lucidly, we strive to live the most illuminating, clear,
and enjoyable life possible, being: 'in the flow'. We can also obtain a
greater understanding of what religions, and even fairy tales, have
been telling us for ages. Lucid living can give us an experience of
being connected to, or even part of, that greater 'Dreamer of us all'.